Docent states that the parent-child relationship is one of the most important factors influencing sibling communication. To see. Zeynep Deniz Seven, who expressed that sibling violence can cause physical, emotional and psychological harm to children, warned parents.
“The role of parents in violence is extremely important”
Seven said that sibling quarrels can go even further and drag it around the child: “Sibling fights and conflicts can happen frequently. Although sibling conflict and fighting are considered normal from time to time , this situation can force families and sometimes even lead to violence between siblings. Violence between siblings can cause physical, emotional and psychological harm to children. In addition, the child can learn about violence and take it to his/her environment beyond the family, such as school. Violence between siblings can have various causes, but the role of parents is extremely important in cases of violence between siblings. Because the wrong attitude of parents towards their children can increase the violence between siblings increase and even create.
Incorrect parental attitudes that can cause sibling quarrels
Expressing that parental indifference, inconsistent behavior, violent behavior, unjust treatment and punishment can lead children to violence, Seven enumerated the wrong attitudes of parents that can cause sibling violence as follows;
“Parents’ inability to resolve their children’s problems and the inability to set healthy boundaries for their children can increase conflict between children. Parents’ disregard for the issues that arise between children can lead children to commit more violent acts. In the case of parental indifference, this can lead to children resolving their conflicts with inappropriate methods.
Inconsistent behavior by parents towards their children can lead to children learning these behavior patterns and becoming indecisive about how to behave towards each other. This can lead to violent behavior. Consistent behavior of families toward their children ensures that their children are consistent in their behavior toward each other and develop positive behaviors.
– Parents who display violent behavior among themselves or in front of their children can cause children to display similar behavior. Parents should use nonviolent means of communication with each other and their children and show that they will never tolerate violence.
-When parents do not treat their children fairly, it can cause jealousy, anger and even hatred in other siblings. Children’s feelings of injustice can change their attitudes towards each other and lead to violence. Therefore, parents should treat their children fairly and respond equally to the needs of each child.
– The parent acts by thinking that there is definitely a criminal among his children, sees the other child as the cause of someone’s suffering, attributes his own inadequacy in the relationship with his children to the scapegoat he chooses from among his children, sees his children as guilty of his problems with his wife, or not taking care of his children in this situation and not caring about his children. Situations such as punishment, applying strict discipline methods to their children and imposing their own responsibilities on their children are among the wrong parental attitudes that cause sibling violence.
“Make your children feel valued”
Seven offered advice to prevent violence between children, saying: “Parents should try to understand why children fight rather than punish them when one sibling harms the other. Punishment can lead children to hide their violent behavior and lead to lead to worse outcomes. Instead of punishing parents, they should understand the reason for the negative behavior and teach their children problem-solving skills, such as solving problems through talking, showing empathy and finding solutions. Parents should be compassionate towards their children, taking the time to care for them, satisfying their children’s emotional needs as well as their physical needs, and making them feel valued and loved by showing love and consideration for their children.