The presentations we make in our business, the social environments we’ve just entered, each of us has some level of “I wonder if I can do it?” “What do people think?” “Have I been liked?” It raises questions like “what if I make a mistake”. These concerns are normal and necessary, to some extent, for survival, including in such situations. However, inability to present these thoughts, difficulty speaking in public, avoiding such situations, and the sadness and disappointment experienced afterwards are guidelines for the lack of self-confidence.
So what is self confidence? What causes a lack of self-confidence? Can anyone become confident? Self-confidence is how we value and perceive ourselves. It is based on our views and beliefs about ourselves which are sometimes very difficult to change. Feelings of self-confidence usually start in childhood. A family life of disapproval can also become a problem due to a poor school environment or dysfunctional workplace. Likewise, an unhappy relationship can alter one’s self-esteem.
Why is self confidence important?
Self-esteem (self-confidence) affects your decision-making, relationships, emotional health, and overall peace of mind. At the same time, people with a healthy, positive view of themselves will be highly motivated because they understand their potential and will have no problem taking on new challenges. Generally people with healthy self-esteem;
– They have a good understanding of their skills.
– They can form healthy relationships with others because they have a healthy relationship with themselves.
– They have realistic and appropriate expectations about themselves and their abilities.
– They understand their needs and can express them
In contrast, people with low self-esteem are often less confident in their abilities and doubt their decision-making processes. They may not feel motivated to try new things because they don’t believe they can achieve their goals. People with low self-esteem may have trouble expressing their needs. They can feel unloved and worthless.
It is often our experiences that form the basis for self-confidence. For example, people who consistently receive overly critical or negative reviews from family and friends are likely to experience low self-esteem. Those who experience supposedly unconditional positive respect from their parents, especially in early childhood, are more likely to have healthy self-esteem.
It can lead to a variety of psychiatric disorders, including low self-esteem, anxiety disorders, and depressive disorders. You may find it difficult to achieve your goals and maintain healthy relationships. Having low self-esteem can seriously affect your quality of life.
How to develop self confidence?
There are steps you can take to deal with self-confidence. Here are some tips you can do to boost your confidence:
– Do not dwell on negative past experiences.
– Believe that you are equal to everyone. In general, see your strengths and weaknesses and accept them. Let’s not forget that everyone makes mistakes by nature and no one is perfect. The main thing is to notice them.
– Express your needs
– Say no when you want.
– Become more aware of negative thoughts. Learn to identify thoughts that affect your self-esteem. If you find yourself preoccupied with negative thoughts, try to respond to these thoughts with more realistic and/or positive thoughts.
– Love yourself if you can. Practice forgiving yourself for past mistakes and move on by accepting all parts of yourself.
The bill at home does not always match the market. Sometimes we can stay in our thoughts like I can’t help it, even though I try really hard. Accepting these and receiving support when necessary does not make you weak and inept, on the contrary, it makes you a self-realized person and has the courage to face it. Let’s not forget that we are responsible for our own lives, how we live this life. Each of us has weaknesses. It would be unfair to ourselves to generalize and think that we are made up of only one weak feature.